This week we have chatted all things sleep from naps to sleep tricks. The question is has anyone actually managed to get some Zzzzzs this week? I know I’m in serious need, not due to newborns, but due to everything from Alice falling out of bed to Molly having a poorly cough (all night). What ever amount of sleep your little one is getting you will want to know that they are sleeping not only soundly, but safely.
We are delighted that today we are bringing you a post from amazing Lullaby Trust and The Gro-Company on how to ensure safer sleep for your baby. The Lullaby Trust are the experts in safer sleep and providing support and guidance for families who are dealing with Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). Together with the Gro-Company they are committed to researching and understanding SIDS and providing you with expert advice on how to keep your baby safe.
I am all too aware that at times it is really hard not to do whatever it takes to get your baby to sleep, believe me, I tried everything with Alice. She ended up sleeping on her tummy as it was the only way she would sleep. You need to do what works for you whilst keeping your little one safe and secure.
SAFER SLEEP
Meeting and getting to know your baby is an extremely exciting and rewarding time. It’s also the beginning of a new relationship. Babies need a lot of sleep during the first few months of their lives so it’s important to ensure that they are sleeping as safely as possible.
Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) is the sudden and unexplained death of a baby where no cause is found. While SIDS is rare, it can still happen and there are steps parents can take to help reduce the chance of this tragedy occurring.
We are still struggling to understand the mechanisms that cause unexplained deaths in infancy, therefore it is not possible for any manufacturer to say that a particular product will prevent SIDS. It is possible, however, to significantly lower the chances of it happening by following this safer sleep guidance. This advice is based on strong scientific evidence where, unlike many products, safety has been proven. You should try to follow the advice for all sleep periods where possible, not just at night.
Things You Can Do
Things To Avoid
Sleep Your Baby On Their Back
Babies who sleep on their backs are safer and healthier. It is not safe for babies to sleep on their fronts or sides. Babies settle more easily on their backs if they have been placed to sleep that way from the very first day. If your baby is less than six months old and you find him asleep on his tummy, gently turn him onto his back. Don’t feel you need to keep getting up all night to check on this. After this age, babies can usually roll onto their backs themselves so leave him to find his own position. Whatever your baby’s age always place them to sleep on the back. Premature babies are slept on the front in hospital for special medical reasons. If your baby was born prematurely then make sure you keep her safe by sleeping her on the back when you take her home from hospital unless your doctor advises a different sleep position.
It can be dangerous if your baby’s head gets covered when she sleeps. Place her with her feet to the foot of the cot, with the bedclothes firmly tucked in and no higher than her shoulders, so she can’t wriggle down under the covers. Don’t worry if she wriggles up and gets uncovered. You can also use a baby sleep bag.
Temperature
Babies don’t need especially warm rooms.
All–night heating is rarely necessary. Babies should never sleep next to a radiator or in direct sunlight. To keep an eye on the temperature buy a simple room thermometer.
To check if your baby is too hot, look for sweating or feel your baby — don’t worry if his hands or feet are cool; that’s normal. If he’s too hot, remove one or more layers of blankets. Babies who are unwell need fewer — not more — bedclothes. Choose lightweight blankets and clothing for sleep.
Baby Bedding
If your baby is under one year old:
Mattress
It is very important that your baby’s mattress is kept clean and dry. Ideally you should buy a new mattress for each new baby. If you are not able to do this, use the one you have as long as it was made with a completely waterproof cover (e.g. PVC) and has no tears, cracks or holes. Clean it thoroughly and dry it.
Check that the mattress:
I hope you have found this information useful and I want to thank The Lullaby Trust and Gro-Company for allowing us to share it with you.
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I think though the people who really know the best way for babies to sleep are their mothers. Zach went into his own room the day after I got home from hospital. I think this is a reason he sleeps so well anywhere we go now he 2. For the first 5 weeks he slept on his back and just never seemed happy so after much reading and researching I put him on his front and guess what… He settled straight away and he didn’t get a flat head. You wouldn’t believe the secrecy I had to keep this information in for fear of the scorn I would face (I left a few online groups due to comments due to his sleeping arrangement and I also chose to bottle feed) . I read a lot about Ids and no one actually knows the causes which is why the advice is to avoid certain things. In the end it came down to… We were not co sleeping, I wasn’t on drugs or alcohol. Not a smoker. So we went for it. I’m not saying everyone should ignore the advice but if it isn’t working for your little ones do the research and make informed decisions in the best interests of your child.
Hi Helen. I completely agree and we all do what works best for you. Alice also ended up sleeping on her tummy (and did for years) and due to everything I had read I was uber paranoid. Turns out it was the only way she would sleep and after 4 months of no sleep at all it was amazing. I think all we can really do is follow the advice where we can and then use that good old mothers intuition to know what is going to work best for your little one. xxx
Well. Appreciate that this post is sponsored, but it is totally preachy! I certainly was aware of all the advice offered above before my little was born, but it is just advice. Like Helen says, there’s not much evidence that doing these things makes a difference (though most of them are sensible adjustments)
Don’t have any issue with advice… As long as it’s just advice as I do think that mum’s know their babies best and as we all sleep differently as adults (on sides, with 17 pillows, etc etc) I don’t really understand why we insist littles all conform. Just makes new mums feel bad!
I remember the agony a mum from my nct group was in as she shyly admitted that she let her daughter sleep on her front. In the same room as her. In her own crib. With a pressure pad monitor. With no numbers or loose duvets. Did she really need to feel that guilt because of articles like this? Personally, I don’t think so.
Rant over ?
Hi Jo. Thank you for your comment and rant away. As we always say, we don’t judge anything anyone does. As I mention Alice slept on her tummy. This isn’t actually a sponsored post, we will always say when it is. I previously worked for a baby sleep company and we worked closely with the Lullaby Trust. I have the utmost respect for what they do and so was keen to share their guidelines with our readers. They are only guidelines but are there based on a lot research but we certainly don’t want people to feel bad for their decisions. Thank you for taking the time to comment. Lottie. x
The point of guidelines is that they are statistically the safest way. That doesn’t mean that every other way is dangerous or people should feel judged for doing it differently but like guidelines on everything from alcohol consumption to eating our 5 a day, it’s the statistically safest option (and yes, statistics can always be interpreted different ways) that is offered as a guideline.
I remember reading that SIDS decreased by 80 something percent in the UK after the ‘back to sleep’ campaign was introduced which is amazing.
I co slept with my children so am not some sort of mad guideline follower (!) but there is a background to the guidelines, they’re not made up to make people feel bad.
Thanks for sharing.
That old debate between cause and causality lived on eh 🙂
good old statistics.
I completely agree with you. Very well put xxx
What an awesome statistic Fionnula. And you are so right that they are just guidelines. xxx
I see both sides- there is no point in getting angry with the guidelines which are based on the best science we have. It’s worth being angry with those guidelines being used as a stick to beat people with in chat rooms or wherever else. I won’t be buying a new next 2 me mattress for #2- it’s a 2 year old one that was used for 4 months, but that doesn’t mean I don’t care about the baby’s safety.
Anyway- a pressure pad sensor mat is so worth it for your peace of mind and if baby is a front sleeper then I think it’s extra valuable for that double level of safety.
Also I found that actually the people who need the advice are well meaning older relations. No I don’t want an extra blanket or the heater on thanks. No it’s not ok for you to snooze on the sofa with my baby. No, please don’t put her face down on a sheepskin to sleep. Etc.
Finally, I was in a state of pure panic about this. My HV took my hand, looked into my eyes and said: “You are incredibly low risk. You have done everything you can. Babies are born, grow and thrive in many worse environments. So stop hurting yourself.”
Suspect that applies to everyone here…
Your health visitor sounds AMAZING. All health visitors should be like that. She is a star in my eyes.
I got the sensor mat as soon as Alice started sleeping on her tummy. It was that bit of reassurance I needed and worth every penny. Also I didn’t buy new mattresses for the reasons you say.
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I understand the comments above about mother’s intuition (I co-slept with my three year old son from 4 months so I’m not a perfect advocate for these guidelines at all!) but I do have to agree with Fionnula, this is all about statistically the safest way for a baby to sleep. There was a great (but hard to read) article in the Guardian recently (I’ve copied the link below) which showed that SIDS in 1989 cost 1,500 lives in the UK. The ‘Back to Sleep’ campaign has been running since 1991 and there are less than 200 in the UK a year, with a dramatic drop in deaths almost instantly when the initiative was introduced.
Of course do what’s right for mum and baby but people have to be aware of the stats so they can make an informed choice.
https://www.theguardian.com/society/2016/aug/26/back-to-sleep-sudden-infant-death-syndrome-cot-death-peter-fleming
Apparently it’s the most effective public health initiative ever… Incredible.
Thank you for sharing Laura. That’s a great article. I always worried with Alice sleeping on her tummy for exactly these reasons. It’s such a hard one making the right decisions but so long as baby is safe that’s all that matters. xxx
Thanks for sharing that article, it’s always good to know what’s behind initiatives and guidelines like Back to Sleep; interesting and informative. It’s absolutely about doing what works for you and your baby, but for me, knowing a bit about the science and research that goes with all these things makes me feel more confident regardless of whether I follow it or not.
Thanks for sharing Lottie. It’s great to see how different things work for different babies; but to have some proven guidance is surely invaluable to so many families. Hopefully this will help lots of parents make informed choices for their little ones.
Keep up the great work Lullaby Trust xx
You are welcome! xx
Another mum who kept the guilty secret of putting my son to sleep on his front in his Snuzpod. He flatly refused to sleep any other way (other than on me) and after 3 months of zero sleep I figured I was more of a danger to him in my state of sleep deprivation than the SIDS.
Though I was honestly petrified I was putting him at risk and worried every night. I came clean to a baby group leader at our community hall one morning who was horrified and that afternoon she called me having ratted me out to the HV. They both wanted to advise me against it. I’m sure they were well meaning but the whole thing made me feel like a terrible mother.
If I were to go back in time I’d have co-slept more (using the Sleepyhead) and put him in his cot in his own room abit sooner than 6 months. We also used the movement monitor and it made such a difference to my peace of mind.
I think the advice and guidance is great and as a mum of course you want to do what’s best and safest for your child. But as a mum I think you also know your child best and should follow your gut instinct. X
Me again! That sounds a bit ranty which wasn’t intended at all. I think the Lullaby Trust are brill and I really wanted to follow the guidelines to the letter, I love a set of guidelines! I guess my son just had other ideas. At the time doing things differently to my mum friends made me feel ashamed and scared and worried. Thinking about other readers who may feel the same, for me accepting the worry and putting him on his front meant he got some sleep and things improved for us. I got a bit more sleep too, well inbetween checking 10 times a night he was breathing lol. X
Lynne, not rant at all. It’s such a hard balancing act between what is meant to be best and what is best for you and your little one. It was my mum who put Alice to sleep on her tummy as that;s what we all did as kids. When I told my neighbour who is a nurse she was horrified and told me not too. I became so paranoid that I checked on her about 20 times that night, not sleeping myself. The next day the sensor mat monitor arrived thanks to Amazon Prime and I haven’t looked back. She now also sleeps on her back. Only took 3 years!!! xxx
When it comes to guidelines, for me it always comes down to, what if I didn’t follow it and something went wrong. For me it doesn’t bare thinking about.
My first did go in her own room from 4 months, that’s because I didn’t understand why she should be in with me. Now I research everything and do better with it.
You’d blame yourself if your something happened to your baby anyway, so why add to that by saying mum knows best?
I feel like mum knows best is a bit of an excuse to do whatever you like really. You know your childs cues absolutely, but that doesn’t mean I can ignore safety guidelines x