I don’t want this to be a moany post but hand me the wine! The last week has been one where I seem to be battling against everything. You have no idea how easy it is to be ill pre-kids. Yes, I still had to go work but I could come home, hide under my duvet and eat chocolate biscuits. Now it’s a completely different story. For one thing, the chocolate biscuits are no longer my own.
I’m normally a pretty positive person and am always determined to fight off any illnesses. They will not strike me down. However, this cold has come out of nowhere though and knocked me for six. I ache all over, my head is a fuzzy mess and I’ve lost track of the amount of boxes of tissues I have got through.
That would be fine if I didn’t also have to simultaneously get the girls to school, plough through work and of course ensure everyone has clean clothes and packed lunches for said activities. Throw in the fact that it is Christmas in a few weeks and I’m close to having a melt down. I don’t actually think my brain can cope at the moment. It is so not like me.
I actually started feeling remotely better the last few days and now, you guessed it, the girls are now ill. Coughing all night, creeping in to our bed and coughing/kicking me all night. Needless to say I am exhausted. I am determined to fight through it though. That’s just how I am, as it’s not like I can do anything but. That’s the thing, in the words of Dory, you have to ‘just keep swimming’. How I long to curl up under a duvet, watching Gilmore Girls and drinking hot chocolate with copious marshmallows and cream. Bliss.
Instead I find myself crawling out of bed, gulping back a cup of tea and wrestling two wild monkeys in to school uniforms whilst simultaneously getting them to shovel rice krispies in to their mouths. I just about manage to get them out the door with hair brushed, and sometimes teeth cleaned. I’m ashamed to admit that the other morning I failed miserably. I had to call my lovely neighbour and ask her to walk Molly to school as I didn’t physically have the strength. I did think Alice and I could have a nice lazy day watching Disney on repeat but instead I showered, went to the supermarket and spent the day baking cakes and brownies for the school Christmas fair which I had forgotten all about.
Then there was the school carol concert, second carol concert and the obligatory school nativity. I kind of go in to auto mode and have to forget the illness and just get on with it. That’s what we do isn’t it? Somehow I stopped sniffing long enough to watch my little ones do the best disco star performance of their lives. Anything that involves glitter and sequins coupled with some dubious dance moves is good in my books. There was no way I was going to miss it.
I could ask for some help, ring my mum and get her to look after the girls (or me!) but somehow I just plough on. I fear I may have truly sounded at my wits end though as the other day Edd came back from London at lunchtime after being away all week. This never happens. Ever. I can’t express how grateful I was. It’s so nice to have someone else there to dish out the Calpol.
So I guess after all my ramblings what I really want to know is how do you cope when you are a mum and ill? How do you get through? On that note I cheered myself up by applying my lovely new Nars blusher to make me look less like the walking dead. If you are poorly you just might need this.
I hear you! Even though I just have one child so far (11-months-old son). I recently had the stomach bug that’s been going around. Instead of being taken care of by my husband, he went away for a conference in the evening. Later that night, I was woken up by him puking all over the bedroom floor, so I ended up mopping the floor at half 3 in the morning! Thank God, our little one slept a litte longer that night!
Oh Anja, that does not sound fun. Sickness is just the worst. When Molly was only a month old Edd and I both had Neuro Virus. I have never been that ill and couldn’t even lift her. I just remember lying on the floor by her and that was about all I could manage. Also, love that you had to clean up after your husband. That sounds very familiar!! xx
Since having baby no2, I’ve managed to catch all sorts of nasties from no1 – including scarlet fever and hand, foot and mouth! I blame the sleep deprivation for my being so run down but I was saying to Mr H last night that I actually feel relatively well for the first time in 6 weeks.
I find that I just struggle through the day then spend the whole evening/weekend holed up in bed. Luckily we’re not into school runs yet, so leaving the house is somewhat optional and Mr H gets home at a reasonable time in the evening.
If anyone has any genius solutions to propping up my rubbish immune system I am all ears though 🙂
Oh no Sarah, that isn’t good. I’ve so far managed to avoid the hideous illnesses and just seem to get the colds. I also don’t think I’ve felt 100% in a long time. Oh to be full of boundless energy and not tired. Have you tried taking echinacea tablets? Also ginger is excellent if you like it. I grate fresh ginger on my cereal (when I remember) or it’s good in smoothies. Hope you manage to keep away from the nasties for a while x
Hope you’re all feeling better soon! There are some nasty colds doing the rounds at the moment.
I can sympathise – I had a horrendous cold a few weeks ago, and had to juggle feeling awful with looking after a two-year old, and working 4 days a week with a long commute. Oh, and I’m also seven months pregnant! Just after I recovered my husband went on a business trip over the weekend so I had 4 days of solo parenting when I could have done with a lie-in and a bit of a break. I had no idea how much of a luxury it was being able to just worry about yourself when you were ill pre-kids – now it’s just a case of getting on with it!
Tanne, you are super woman. Working, solo parenting, pregnant and a toddler. I can definitely sympathise having done this a lot over the last 5 years. It is blinking tough but I am also amazed by the last ounce of energy you manage to find to just get through. You deserve chocolate today xx
You poor thing! I don’t have an answer but have been there. We all got struck down with norovirus (our whole NCT a group including husbands went swimming and all got it). It was horrendous. My son was still having a night feed and a particular low point was breastfeeding him then pretty much chucking him back in the cot to run to the bathroom and throw up everywhere. Sometimes you just need someone to look after you, don’t you?! My mum came to help the next day, and caught it. Oh the guilt.
Neurovirus is the worst. We both had it at Christmas when Molly was a month old, I could barely lift her to feed her. It was not fun so I feel your pain. No one would come in in case they caught it. People just rang the doorbell and we would open it to find bottles of lucozade and a kind family member waving from the safety of the car! I’m sure your mum forgave you xx
I had my first taste of being ill with a baby last week when my husband and I got struck my a sickness bug. It was hard. Thankfully my mum came over to help as I’m not sure how I would’ve coped otherwise! Hope you all feel better soon and you get something pampering and restorative from Santa this year x
It’s when you finally give in and ring your partner to come home early (or send the LEAVE ON TIME text) that you realise you really are unwell! So much respect for the single parents who don’t have that option.
So true Lucy. That’s why I was in shock when Edd came home early. He works away in London most of the week and is rarely home before 10 so I must have sounded pretty desperate when I spoke to him. I didn’t even ask him to come home as never expected he would. Love him xx
I think we should change that phrase ‘man up’ to ‘mum up’. Sometimes it’s the only option to load up with olbas oil, vitamin c and buckets of tea and that’s what we all do. Week 3 of this horrible cough/cold thing going around but the end is in sight. Stay strong mums, we’ll get through it one way or another x
Excellent plan Steph. ‘Mum up’ is about right I’d say. Keep going and hope you feel better soon xx
I spent most of October with a never ending cold and 2 stomach bugs ( to properly book end the month!). Just I got over one cold or stomach bug my husband caught it! There was one cold where I had to look after my 15month on my own for a few nights as my husband was working away -I have no idea how I did it as I couldn’t breathe and ached all over! Husband duly caught it and bless him apologised for working away as he wouldn’t have been able to cope with the baby and a cold!
Felix had just recovered from chicken pox and I’m now getting a cold !!!!
At least I was well in November!!!!