Once Tayo had been moved from the NICU and we were put onto the Transitional Care ward I remember one of the first things one of the midwives said to me was, ‘Oh hasn’t he got prominent little ears’. Hmpff. Yes he has. But is there a need to comment? Maybe she meant it in an affectionate way but whatever, I think where possible, you shouldn’t really pass comment on anyones baby… ‘Oh he’s really big isn’t he!’, ‘Oh gosh he’s small for his age’ etc. These comments can stay in the Mamas head and stew and can leave her feeling worried about her baby appearing big for his age or in fact, about his very cute but very folded over ears.
When Leo was born he had very similar looking ears so initially I didn’t feel too concerned. Leo’s had straightened themselves out by the time he was 6 months old. I’d still say he has fairly prominent ears but they appear pretty ‘normal’ in shape and general appearance. I’d been actively keeping my eye on Tayo’s to see if they would shift and actually they have from when he was very little, they have definitely ‘opened up’ some but not all the way.
It came time for Tayo’s final visit to his Pediatrician when he turned 6 months. She is such a lovely Doctor, someone who I felt really comfortable with, who would share stories of her children with me and so on. So when we were talking about his general health and wellbeing I felt comfortable enough to bring up the subject of his ears. Telling her about initial vocal observations from midwives, to Leo’s ears, to feeling like that was it for Tayo and that I didn’t feel like they would change shape any time soon. She agreed with me and agreed that the cartilage at the top of his ear seem to be restricting the opening out of the ear.
“Let’s get a referral to the Plastic Surgeon’
Erm… The what now? Now I’m not naive enough to think plastic surgery is all tummy tucks and nose jobs, I know that plastic surgeons are used for a multitude of things but it had never dawned on me that if I wanted to ‘correct’ Tayo’s ears that it would involve a Plastic Surgeon. But ok, Let’s see what they have to say.
I had high hopes of meeting a Jackson Avery, a la Grey’s Anatomy style character on our trip back to the hospital four weeks later and although the Dr wasn’t quite Jackson, he was super lovely, extremely good with Tayo and made me feel like 1, I wasn’t awful for possibly wanting to alter how my child looks and 2, that it was really common and 3, the procedure is really straightforward.
It turns out that he has something called Lop Ear where essentially the cartilage isn’t quite in the right place. The Doctor manipulated his ears to show me that in fact, he has all the right bits they just haven’t quite developed the way they ‘should’. I could see how he would look if it was corrected. He explained to me that essentially the ears are made up of 6 bits and they all need to develop and grow at the same time to create that ‘normal’ ear shape and sometimes things go a bit wrong in the course of their development which can lead to things such as Lop Ear.
To correct them it would involve surgery and Tayo being asleep so it’s not something we can do at this time in his life because he is too small and the risk factors are too high, we’d be looking to have it done when he was about 4.
The whole things leaves me feeling extremely anxious and gives me a big knot in my tummy when I think about it. And that’s for a couple of reasons. To me, Tayo is perfect. He is SO wonderful and I love him with every fibre of my being. His ears are, on the grand scheme of things, really quite insignificant to me. He has no issues with his hearing and so we would be making the change their appearance purely for aesthetic reasons. Purely to avoid him being teased at school, purely so that he doesn’t have to face any unnecessary cruelty. Purely so they fit more into the ‘normal’.
Now, I’m a big believer in being who you are. If you want to make a change to your appearance then you should absolutely do that if it makes you feel better about yourself. Is it my right to make that choice for my baby? Anthony, and I’m sure he won’t mind me saying, is pretty firmly in the camp of yes we should, kids can be cruel and so if we can save him any heart ache over his appearance then we should. I on the other hand sway between the two camps. You shouldn’t change yourself because someone else thinks you should, because your piers don’t feel you quite ‘fit in’, you should make that decision for yourself based on your own morals and stand points but at 6,7 or 8 years old can you make such judgements for yourself? Is it better that we take that burden away for him before it gets a chance to start weighing on his shoulders?
And above all, the thing that most puts me off going through with it is this… What if he thinks that I didn’t think he was perfect just the way he was? Because I do. I’m just also conscious of how cruel society can be when you have something that appears to be ‘different’. My heart breaks at the thought of someone picking on him because of his ears, or picking on him for any reason but it breaks more at the thought of him thinking that I thought he should change.
So we have a few years to think about it, to get to a point of being able to ask him what he would like to do and I guess I have to just take it from there and not over think it in the meantime.
Have you made any cosmetic changes to your child’s appearance? Were there health implications if you didn’t or did you do it purely to make life easier for them? I’d love to hear any stories you have to share so as always please do in the comments below x
I have no first hand experience of this but just wanted to say Tayo is one of the most adorable babies I ever did see! Xxx
Ah Mrs D thank you 🙂 x
Becky, my parents made that choice for me. I’m forever grateful.
I had an underdeveloped lower jaw when I was little. Nothing major and I was still pretty cute if I do say so (!) but it was finally pointed out just before my teens. My lower jaw sat too far back which was an issue in itself, but also if left, my bottom teeth would have continued to grow – as usually the top front teeth sort of tell them to stop – if that makes sense?
I had plastic surgery. It was purely cosmetic, but the option was there and my parents decided to take it. Of course I was old enough to agree, but I wouldn’t say I was old enough to take on the responsibility of that choice without my parents guidance. I was already perfect to them, but they had the same dilemma as you have now; I’m glad they chose surgery.
My jaw was broken on both sides and reset with metal pins that are still there to this day. It was actually pretty brutal, but over 25 years on I am so so grateful that they made that choice for me!
Tayo IS perfect, and he’s gorgeous. But this fairly simple procedure could make a real difference for his self esteem and confidence as he grows. Whatever you decide, it’ll be the right choice for him. ❤❤❤xxx
Wow Karen! Thanks for sharing that. It sounds something similar to my best friend, he has always been bothered by his jawline but it was never mention as an issue as a child, recently he had some other issues and the dr said it’s all related and he probably has had a condition all his life (I can’t for the life of me remember the name). He always says if he had plastic surgery he would have his jaw done, but we never thought it would be possible, but sounds like it could be.
Ah Claire thank you. You’ve made me realise how lucky I am… that’s just it I guess, whatever the doctor / consultant decides ato the time can affect your whole life. xx
Karen! Who knew I could be even more thankful to your commitment to these pages! Thanks so much for sharing this, it’s made me feel so much better and I’m glad it all worked out for you and was the right decision. Fingers crossed we all make the right decision xx
Hahaha if my unending devotion helps, then it’s worth sticking around ??
The whole drama of the thing was actually eclipsed by the glory of telling everyone at school that I’d had cosmetic surgery AND getting a few weeks off to listen to the Bodyguard soundtrack on repeat, on my brand new CD Walkman. The fact that I temporarily looked like a beaten up Desperate Dan was secondary. xx
Oh I had the opposite – my jaw was borderline too prominent (resulting in an underbite) – so when I was getting my teeth sorted (which were totally horrendous) when I was a teenager, I was given the option of having the surgery to shorten my jaw or just correcting my teeth with braces. Because of my age (they would have been fitting braces first for 18 months then doing the surgery after – I would have been 16) I declined the surgery (didn’t want my 6 weeks holiday after my GCSEs spent with my jaw wired up and eating only soup!!). Thankfully my jaw seemed to be partially fixed by my braces somehow, but I have a friend who did have the whole thing done. She doesn’t regret it for a minute now!
My son was born with a hairy patch on his shoulder, almost as if his hairline at the back didn’t quite make its way into the right place! We were told it’s just a type of birth mark and if he wants treatment to remove it when he is older we can do. I will leave this to him. I think its endearing and it has gotten less prominent as he has got older, but I understand the feelings about him being teased for it. Probably not the same extent, but kids can be cruel and it only needs one nasty child to start something off.
Coincidently my son also has quite prominent ears, a family trait both our sides. he is growing into them a bit more now but as a baby it was terribly cute, especially from the back! I wouldn’t have even passed comment on Tayos ears, didn’t know lop ears was even a thing, I would have just thought what a gorgeous baby!!
Claire I absolutely agre that these things in babies can be beyond endearing, I really love his little ears but like you say, it just takes that one person doesn’t it? X
I have/had a similar thing – my Mum always referred to it as my ‘Beauty Spot’, but in fact is was a hideous long haired ginger thing on my arm. It didn’t bother me one bit, and no one ever seemed to notice until one of the boys at school when I was 9 asked me what it was, but when I told him it was my beauty spot, he replied with ‘Well it’s not very beautiful!’. He didn’t mean it in a cruel way at all – we were very close friends, but after that I looked at it in a completely different light. A couple of weeks later I was having a botched operation to remove it in my GP’s office, which has left horrible scarring and a massive chunk out of my arm (on the plus side, it makes me look like I’ve got very defined muscles on my left arm!).
In hindsight, if the decision would have been made for me when I was younger, the only benefit would have been a proper operation in a hospital (no traumatic memories of being sliced up on a bench, proper aftercare etc etc), but I’d much prefer having a war wound and a story than a ginger monster stuck to me!
I’d feel exactly the same conflicting emotions were I in your position, Becky. It’s completely understandable why you feel it its far from a straightforward decision.
Of course you want to protect him from any possible hurt but you feel you’re damned if you do and damned if you don’t. If everyone’s quirks were corrected before anyone had chance to pick on them then surely it would perpetuate the problem of anything different to the average being something worthy of comment or worse, ridicule? Well that’s all very well and good and an admirable stance but when it’s the thought of your own child who stands to be the one spearheading the “Celebrate Uniqueness!” campaign in the playground, suddenly it doesn’t feel so cut and dried.
I remember vividly various children at primary school going through similar procedures and at the time no more was thought of it than that they were doing something really exciting. Often the child themselves, while possibly nervous on the inside, saw it as a no more than bit of a passport to fleeting minor classroom celebrityhood; being the one to share exciting stories of being “put to sleep” and generally acting the hero. Now we are parents ourselves, our sophisticated reasoning can’t help but see beyond the excitement and novelty to the potential broader emotional implications. Without wanting to minimise too much, I’m sure with our protective parental magnifying glass these are actually bigger in our perceptions than reality. But they are still very valid nonetheless.
At least you have a bit of time to decide and when he’s four, the right path might feel more obvious. I guess the thing to do is try not to ruminate on it too much between now and then but that’s MUCH easier said than done, I know.
For what it’s worth, I’m addicted to your IG and instastories and have never really noticed Tayo’s ears, true story. It’s hard to see beyond his RIDICULOUSLY CUTE FACE…..
Haha!!! I bet that’s all you notice now I’ve pointed them out ? But thanks for your words, I think you’ve got my point entirely. It’s a strange one because I also don’t really ‘see’ his ears when I look at him, I’m just aware that they are there, if that makes sense. Maybe he’ll just grow an epic afro and we won’t have to think about it at all. X
He could TOTALLY work a ‘fro.
My brother had huge ears growing up and took it upon himself to arrange for them to be pinned back when he was 18. He wishes it was done sooner – he had a tough time at high school because of it and his confidence soared after it was done.
Becky it is such a hard one and I don’t envy you. If it helps maybe think about it from a different perspective. If he had fallen over and broken his nose you probably wouldn’t be thinking so much about fixing that. My sister did exactly this as a child but she refused to have the op to put it back straight and ended up having a big nose operation in her 20’s as a result. I also know someone with sticky out ears who chose in their 30’s to have them pinned back and wish they had done it sooner. I actually think it was harder to do it then in a way as they were so much a part of their character if that makes sense. I wouldn’t let the whole op side of things worry you. Molly was absolutely fine with hers last year and never really bothered at all. Whatever you decide Tayo will still be the absolute cutest. Love him xxx
I hadn’t ever even noticed his ears- he’s so yummy all around that they are just a part of his perfect little whole.
But I don’t think you should worry too much about him thinking you thought he wasn’t perfect. I’m sure he is so surrounded by love and affection he won’t even consider it. And you can of course tell him how wonderful and perfect he is to you. I really believe in little ones understanding far more than we give them credit for, so would try and move that guilty feeling away from the decision. Easy to say, hard to do!
Give him a big squooodge from us here xxx
Squoodges all around Lucy, thank you x
What’s tough decision – I’ve never noticed it in any of your photos. He is a gorgeous little guy!
A friend of mine had prominent ears that she had ‘pinned back’ in her 20s – she now very much wishes she’d done it as a child as the recovery would be much quicker and easier.
SO many teens have things like braces for cosmetic reasons (I know sometimes they’re for medical reasons but not always) which can be painful and uncomfortable, this isn’t hugely different although I understand the worry about anaesthetic etc.
I’m sure your heart will tell you the right thing to do when the time comes. That old chestnut but it’s true! Xxxx
Hi Fionnula, I’d not considered recovery periods being quicker etc in your youth but yes I guess they would be. I’d also not thought about braces and things either, you’ve put his ears into a bit more perspective for me, thanks so much for your comment x
Gosh, such a tough one! Tayo is absolutely gorgeous and I can completely understand why it somehow doesn’t feel right “correcting” something that is perfect as it is, especially when trying to raise children so that they don’t feel that their appearance is the most important thing about them.
Then again, if it is something that could make life easier for him in the future, and presumably is more straightforward with less chance of teasing if it’s done while he is younger… I really don’t know what I would do! I don’t think there is a “wrong” answer as whatever you do will be what you think is best for Tayo.
Thanks Pips x
Becky – I know exactly how you feel and the dilemma you are facing. My daughter was born with a rare condition called Poland Syndrome, which essentially means she is missing several ribs on one side and may or may not develop breast tissue. We’re so grateful that after a barrage of tests, that for her, it is purely a cosmetic issue and doesn’t have any impact on her physically or quality of life. She is only 10 months old and at the moment it just looks like a little dip on one side of her chest, but already we have been told it is “freaky”, “abnormal” and have been asked in horror “what’s wrong with her?”
To us, she is perfect and so precious (the last 10 months of constant tests has made us appreciate how lucky we are!). But we are all to aware how hard it’s going to be for her when she hits puberty. She won’t be eligible for surgery until she’s at least 15, but we want to place that decision firmly in her hands. I’m so determined to emphasise to her as she grows up that she’s perfect as she is, but already we have well meaning family discussing “when she has the surgery” rather than “if”. And don’t even get me started on the conversation with my MIL that went along the lines of “she’ll have to wait until she’ had surgery to get a boyfriend as no one will want her before that”!!!!!!
Oh Sara what an inconsiderate and frankly ridiculous comment from your MIL. Ergh, I’m so sorry about that. I just HATE that people think they have any right to pass any comment at all. Your little girl is in good hands and like us I’m sure you will all make the right decision for her when the time comes. It’s all about our perfect imperfections right? Lots of love xx
Hi Becky, really useful post thank you. My little boy had an early arrival into the world (due to me having a placental abruption) and was very small and spent a bit of time in hospital after. 6 weeks later a burst blood vessel came up on his forehead which I didn’t think much of but checked with the HV when I was next in who said it would likely become a birthmark!
I was silly and googled all about them and became a bit fixed on finding out how it would develop etc. I thought a birthmark would be there from birth?! Sure enough a strawberry mark formed (heamangioma) right in the middle of his forehead.
To start with I was really upset, my perfect baby suddenly had a mark that would be (I felt) the only thing people would see/ask about, let alone the potential bullying in the future etc. And as a sleep deprived, first time mum, I just hated the thought anyone wouldn’t think he wasn’t perfect. I was told it would reabsorb and go before he reached school age but unsure about this I investigated treatment options.
I found out you can get them treated using a heart medication which speeds up the reabsorption, however this tends to be if they grow in an area affecting an organ such as the eye. His is just a cosmetic concern to me. That being the case and the side effects of the medication put me and my husband off going down the medication route. We decided to let nature take its course and not interfere. (This was right for us but I can totally understand others choosing the medication route, our little boys never grew that big/or affected anything working properly).
We have grown to love his little mark and the fact he has something different about him, even to the point where I will miss it when it’s gone which I never thought I’d say. However I do still worry that if it doesn’t go by school age that he will be picked on/bullied and I will regret the decision we made. We will have to look into other treatment options nearer the time if it’s still there.
It’s so hard that the older you get the more different/alternative and unique you want to be, yet you have to get through the school years where anything ‘different’ can isolate you and be used against you in a horrible way. I totally understand your feelings of wanting to protect your lovely boy from anything that might cause him any pain.
I found out recently, that placental abruption increases the risk of babies developing these type of birth marks….. makes the mum guilt even worse. However I guess I am grateful that this is my only concern with my gorgeous boy and that he is otherwise healthy and happy.
Good luck in your decision making in a few years, you will absolutely make the right decision for him. And I’m in total agreement with the others he is simply gorgeous.
Hi Dani. Oh that Mum guilt gets us in every w
Hi Dani. Oh that Mum guilt gets us in every way it can doesn’t it. If it’s any consolation my niece had a ‘strawberry’ but now at age 6 it’s pretty much completely gone but I know what you mean about these thing becoming a part of them and like your son, Tayo’s ears are part of him, part of his character and I know I’d feel sad at that part of him changing xx
Would you look at that cherubic little face with his dribbly chin. Honestly Becks he is the perfect angel and a beautiful soul to boot. Please don’t beat yourself up about this decision. Kids are cruel and so I can totally understand why Anthony feels the way he does…equally I understand why you feel the way you do too. Whatever you decide Tayo will still be the sweetest kid on the block. From another perspective I know a couple of male adults who chose to have their ears pinned back in later life; they only wished that their parents had done it for them earlier on. Not sure if that helps you at all but I thought I’d share it xxxx
This seems a recurring theme among comments this morning doesn’t it?! People wishing it had just been dealt with when they were younger. Thanks for your support as ever Donks xx
I had very sticky-out ears and had them pinned back when I was about 6/7.
My parents waited until I was old enough to understand what was going on and I guess give me the opportunity to say no.
They absolutely made the right decision. Looking back at pics before and after, I think I would have wanted to have the procedure done eventually and as it was done so early, I don’t really remember much about the operation bit (although my Mum says it was hard for her).
Good luck in making the decision!x
I totally get your worries Becky. My son was born with hypospadias which is where a boy’s foreskin and urethra don’t develop properly. We were lucky as his was really mild and the operation to fix it was mainly cosmetic (as opposed to some boys who unfortunately need multiple operations). We worried about it at length as he needed to be put to sleep but we did it as we wanted him to be as ‘normal’ as possible and not be teased growing up. We’ll definitely have to make sure we discuss this with him as he gets older (he’s nearly 4) and why we made that decision but I’m so glad we did.
Tayo is ADORABLE!
My parents when through this with me when I was little, I have a ‘lazy’ eye where one of my eyes doesn’t move quite as it should, its not very noticeable in fact I don’t think most people have realised but if I turn a certain way my eyes can look a bit ‘off’. My parents saw a specialist when I was young who said it could be treated but would mean me wearing an eye patch for a while. They made the decision not to have the treatment because they were scared that I would get picked on or taunted in school because of it. As an adult now I wish I had got it done while I was younger as there is nothing that can be done about it now.
Oh Becky, what a choice! Honestly, in this situation, whatever you decide will be the right one. It’s also possible that, even at 4, Tayo might have an opinion on it by then!
My best friends had ears that stuck out slightly and she had her ears pinned back when we were about 13. Best thing she ever did as she was SO self conscious about them and had to have her hair in exactly the same style every day. Once they were pinned, she was so much more relaxed (and also allowed her hair to grow its natural curl which was amazing!). There are pros and cons to waiting to that age, obviously she had already developed a worry about it but it also meant the decision was absolutely hers. But on the downside she was obviously completely aware of the procedure (although she was so excited she didn’t mind any of it!).
I know this doesn’t change the fact that his ears have developed this way – but can I just say that I have seen lots of photos of a Tayo on your Insta and on here and not once ever have I noticed his ears. I’m far too busy internally cooing at his gorgeous eyes and beautiful smile!
Becky, he is just the cutest!!! Absolutely gorgeous. Such a tough decision and I know my cousin had his ears pinned at a young age and we didn’t think anything of it. Saying that, it does feel that “differences” are much more celebrated and accepted now – look at all the models with gaps between their teeth xxx
Another great post Becky! I was born with a prominent ear on one side, which I was totally oblivious to until it was pointed out to me by the lady who pierced my ears age 11. I absolutely hated it as a teenager and eventually saved up to have it pinned at age 19 – the best money I’ve ever spent.
My plastic surgeon told me about a product called Ear Buddies to consider when I had children, which can be used from birth to ‘reshape’ the wonky cartilage. I laughed off the idea as a teenager, but when I was pregnant I even toyed with buying some ‘just in case’. My son is a few weeks younger than gorgeous Tayo, and luckily didn’t inherit my wonky lugholes – but if he had, I wouldn’t have hesitated to take measures to re-align them xxx
I had a dark brown birthmark about the size of a tangerine on the back of my lower leg, and was constantly asked “what is that?” as a small child and teenager, then ultimately teased about it. As I got in to my teens, it used to affect what I wore (never uncovered legs), always stood with my back to the wall in swimming pools and even tried to cover it with a plaster and makeup. I was always conscious of it and hated it. It took me until the age of 25 before I decided that I wanted it surgically removed and remember being so nervous telling my mum and dad. They were sad that it had caused me so much pain (I hid that from them) and said they wished so much that they had it removed when I was younger. I am 35 now and the scar is barely noticeable but for the first few years it was like a massive “bite” out of my leg (the surface area was twice the size of the birthmark itself) and I admit that my heart sank when it wasn’t the quick fix I had hoped for. It was however a million times easier to deal with than the birthmark itself! Anyway, I guess my point is the same as many others above in that i certainly wish I had had it removed at a younger age and absolutely would not have thought bad of my parents for doing so!
I am also a follower of your Instagram and OMG little Tayo is the bomb! So so so adorable X
Hi Becky,
I also had quite a prominent ‘lazy eye’ when I was little and at age 6 my parents decided to have it corrected by surgery. Apparently my mum was in bits when it came to the actual operation – as you would be – 6 year old me on the other hand LOVED it! It was a novelty for me – I got time off school, get-well presents, my mum bought me special pjs and wait for it – strawberry flavoured toothpaste to take into hospital with me which I thought was the coolest thing ever (it was the early nineties after all). I still remember playing games on the ward and that toothpaste now, but honestly don’t remember the op itself or the recovery period. I thank my lucky stars my parents made the decision to do it then, as I have no doubt it would have affected me negatively later on in life.
Tayo is perfect, whatever shape his ears are and I’m sure whatever decision you make will be right for all of you ?
Katie xx
Hi becky, very interesting read and everyone’s comments! I didn’t know that there was such a thing as lop ear!! U know I love tayo the way he is and it would just be part of his character, nothing wrong with something being a little ‘different’ but it does make me think of other Kids and their cruel words that could upset him! its a tough decisions to make! Or let him have hair like Anthony and u won’t see them!!! Xxx
Hi Becky!
I had sticky out ears from birth until I was about 30 and decided to have them pinned back.
I was teased a bit as a child and during some of my teenage years (nothing horrendous, just the odd jibe here and there, some from my own brother!). I remember always saying that I would have them “fixed” when I was older. My parents had taken the view that I was perfect either way and that they were part of me and they wouldn’t want to change that. I also remember feeling a bit aggrieved with them for not having gotten them sorted for me at a young age.
Now I’m a mum myself and my little one has sticky out ears and I think and feel completely differently about it and understand why my parents chose to let me make my own choice.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, from my experience, there is probably no right answer to this, only you can make the decision (and you will make the best decision for Tayo), but whatever decision you make, Tayo will hopefully no doubt understand, if that makes sense!
As many others have pointed out, he is absolutely gorgeous and it says a lot about people who do make any comments – if only they could get a surgery for their rudeness!
Xx
When Arthur was born he had torticolis in his neck which resulted in his head being flat on one side and also it was causing his ears to be out of line. We had the similar thoughts to you – it was purely cosmetic but how would he feel in the future?
After months of trying to reposition and going to an osteopath it was not really any better. We looked into a helmet and decided to do it! It was the hardest decision we’ve had to make.
There was lots of crying and I was very self conscious that people were going to judge me and more importantly my little boy! After 4 months his head was so much more rounded, it wasn’t perfect but we were ok with that. He will always be perfect to us but at least we can say that we did what we thought was right.
That’s all you can do… what you think is right. Tayo is gorgeous no matter what! Xx
Ive nothing useful to say but what a cutie! Whatever decision you make will be the right one for you as a family.
I am struggling with a similar issue myself with my 3 month old and people keep commenting on his big ears! They say ‘it’s cute!’ At the moment but I don’t want it to become something that defines him…even though I love him the way he is another part of me wonders if he’ll thank me later if I do something about it now! In my internet trawling on the subject I came across this website which might interest you as a non-surgical option.i am considering it at the moment! Here’s the link https://www.earbuddies.co.uk/pages/how-it-works
Hi Becky can I just reiterate how super cute Tayo is?! My little boy will be 4 in April and his ears have always looked quite similar. I used to notice/worry a bit about it when he was a baby, but as he’s grown his gorgeous long shaggy hair covers them so I’d sort of forgotten about it! It has made me think though that I should maybe take another look. For me personally I think I’d have to wait until he’s older and if they bother him and he wants anything done about them as I realise he may not always want this hairstyle! Of course, like you, I think my boy’s little ears are the cutest thing ever xx