So you’ve probably just mastered breastfeeding or figuring out a bit of a routine with your bottle feeding journey and now it’s time to throw another spanner in the works. Weaning. I’m going to try and give you a bit of a low down on the whole shebang, from my personal experiences as well as throwing in some info that’s straight from the NHS as to what you should and shouldn’t be doing from a health perspective. I wrote this when Tayo was seven months old so we are a few months further down the weaning process now and it’s going well.
Now I said weaning was like throwing a spanner in the works but actually, as long as you stay calm and relaxed about the whole thing you can have so much fun. You might hear words such as baby led, purees and sippy cups thrown around and feel like you have no idea what any of those things mean and that’s ok. None of us do until we’ve been through the process and in fact even once you’re out the other side there will be lots of things you’ve perhaps not heard of.I thought it might be best to split the post into sections to help make everything a bit clearer.
When To Start
‘Well you were having baby rice at 6 weeks!’ Yep, little old me, being spoon fed at just 6 weeks old. No wonder I had rolls for days! Everyone from your Mum to your Nan to your best friend’s sister’s cousin will have an opinion on when you should start weaning your baby… It can make it all a bit overwhelming.
Todays advice is to wait until 6 months before you start weaning your baby as they get all the nutrition they need from breast or formula milk until that point. Things start to change in your baby at around 6 months, for example, their iron stores start to lessen and so that’s one of the reasons why we’re encouraged to start introducing them to solids at that point.
I’d heard it all but I started weaning Leo just as he turned 5 months and Tayo was just over 5 months. I felt they were ready, I went with my gut. I think it’s easy to be mislead by ‘signs’ that you’re baby is ready to start on solids. For example, chewing on fists. Tayo had really started to do this but I believe that was more to do with his teeth moving around than him wanting to actually eat. I based my decisions to start more on his fascination with food; watching every mouthfull as we ate at the dinner table, grabbing for my plate etc. He’d started to show a genuine interest. We’re also advised by the NHS not to be fooled into thinking that waking at night or wanting more milk means your baby needs solid food… These changes could be down to growth spurts or a number of things but that need for more milk doesn’t necessarily mean the baby is fully ready to start actually eating.
It’s really important to make sure your baby can hold it’s head comfortably. To start with you will only be offering a few spoons a day and so they don’t need to be able to sit for an hour but they do need to be comfortable.
What And When
We’ve put together a little pinnable guide for you that you can print off and stick to your fridge so it’s easy for you to remember what is safe for your baby to eat and when it’s safe to start eating it (we’ve also provided a check list too so you can tick off when they’ve tried certain things and what they liked or disliked). The NHS says there’s no proof that introducing foods too early can cause an allergic reaction so it’s just advised that these things get introduced in really small amounts and never before 6 months – those are things such as peanuts, wheat, gluten, dairy, fish and shellfish). Although we are advised to start weaning at 6 months we know some parents choose to start earlier which is why we have included foods that are safe for your babies prior to the 6 month mark.
How
From my personal experienece there are two real approaches to weaning and that is baby led and spoon fed. Baby led is pretty much self explanitry, the baby leads the way into their weaning journey. It involves lots of finger foods (so veggies cut up to finger size pieces for them to grab at and hold) and mashed up foods they can eat using their hands, potatoes, bananas, avacados etc. You can read all about Ferns experience with baby led weaning here.
Spoon fed babies often start with a very puree’d mix of fruits and vegetables that gradually gets more lumpy over time so they can explore new textures.
With Leo and Tayo I did a mixture of both methods. And they both seem to really enjoy either way. Tayo opens his mouth so wide when he sees his porridge coming! It really makes me smile and equally when I make him some sweet potato chips he squishes them in his hands and sucks it all off. It’s such a fascinating time for them. You might find if you’ve taken the spoon feeding approach and your baby just isn’t interested they might prefer to hold the food themselves so it’s worth a try if you’re starting to feel stressed about how much they are or aren’t eating.
It’s really important that your baby still continues to receive breast or formula milk during their weaning stage up until 12 months so I always offer a bottle before any solids to ensure Tayo is getting the hydration he needs. But I also introduced a sippy cup with his first meal. He is fascinated by the whole thing. He loves holding it but hasn’t quite yet figured out how to tip it back. You will be amazed at how quickly they learn to suck and swallow from something totally different to what they’ve been used to for 6 months. You might also feel like most of your day now involves feeding your baby. Tayo’s day typically now goes something like this:
5-6am bottle
9-10am – breakfast
11-12 – bottle
12-1 – lunch
2-3 – bottle
3-4 – dinner
6-7 bottle
Now that looks like a LOT on paper. But soon I anticipate he will start to drop a bottle because he is increasing his solids consumption. It’s all a real balancing act and figuring out how much milk he needs per feed vs how much solid food he needs. But for now, it basically looks like that. He takes anywhere between 5 and 7 oz at his bottle feeds and he’s having the equivalent of 2-3 ice cube sized feeds per session. That’s all very average because some meal times he might have 3 sweet potato wedges and only actually eat the flesh of one in total so then his milk intake might be a bit higher. But basically, I’m giving him something every few hours. I don’t think there’s any set rules for this and how you do it, I certainly haven’t found any so I’m literally going with my Mama gut. I’d love to hear about how much your babes have throughout the day.
Food Is Just For Fun
Our little humans are learning so much at this time in their lives and so it’s important not to put too much pressure on either yourself or your little one when it comes to weaning. Within the team we’ve all had varying journeys with weaning, some of our littles just weren’t ready until about 8 months and showed no interest at all and some took to it like a duck to water. My advice is just to go with the flow. Obviously if you have concerns over your babies weight gain you should seek advice from your Health Visitor. For me, weaning was one of those things where I went with my gut. Ultimately we know our babies better than anyone so I started to wean when I felt the boys were really ready. And you will hear that food is just for fun during the first 12 months so you should try and do just that. Strip your baby off, chuck a load of exploratory food on their high chair and let them enjoy themselves. They might not eat a single thing but they will have had loads of fun, an amazing sensory experience and you will have some excellent pictures for their photo album.
When did you start your weaning your littles? If you have more than one did you start at the same time or did you take different approaches? What does your daily eating schedule look like?
Great informative post! I loved weaning Silvia, she was 2 weeks short of 6 months when we started and we went full baby led. It really suited her as she’s so independent but all her grandparents found it tough- they were terrified she would choke. Well worth checking out on YouTube some videos to learn the difference between gagging and choking.
On cups, the health visitors here push a doidy or other open cup- you hold it at first and they negotiate the rim. Or there are those Munchkin Genius cups that mimic the sensation but they can hold themselves. It’s been fab for us as she can balance and drink really well from any cup or glass now so when I forget a cup for her (often) it’s no problem. Obviously we use sippy cups too or shove a straw in a big adult mug on occasion.
Looking forward to doing it all again- although at 6 weeks old I’ve already had an elderly lady tell me he’s ready for some rice in his bottle as he’s a big boy! I was so shocked, as was she when I told her he’s on the boob and won’t be weaned until 6 months!
Haha Lucy! There’s not a single area of parenthood that people don’t feel the need to pass comment on is there! Tayo has become so disinterested in his sippy cup and actually a few weeks ago I tried him with a little straw cup and he loves it – really take sin a good measure of water each time. I’d forgotten I’d done the same with Leo. I am conscious to make sure he learns the skill of holding a tipping though so I might look at one that you’ve suggested! Thanks so much x
Do have a look at the Genius- my friend had one and I was like what IS that??? Game changer. They’re in Toys r Us and I think Tesco.
Think I need to look for a genius!
Is that the munchkin 360? I can’t find one called genius… but I need it!
They’ve blooming rebranded it here it is- http://www.munchkin.co.uk/cups/spoutless-cups.html?gclid=Cj0KEQjwrsDIBRDX3JCunOrr_YYBEiQAifH1FsdEvF1srcqDln6sqmaigbCjvEHRHEskM0BpjDsDyvIaAvxw8P8HAQ
Thanks!
I dreaded weaning! I had finally got into a really settled place with feeds and sleeps and then had to think about food. I think it was also the effort of having to take food out with you (leaving the house is much easier when they are just on the boob!).
But I actually loved it. We waited until six months and did a mixture of both methods. Used pureed foods to see what he liked and ate, and BLW to let him explore the food himself.
I have a zillion photos of him at his highchair covered in food with a massive smile on his face.
There was definitely a lot of gagging in the early days with BLW, but he was always fine and I felt confident that he would be, the grandparents were always worried though.
He is 11 months now and eats anything!
What a successful story Tracey! I find I’m apprehensive about the start of anything but like you’ve pointed out once you just get into it and trust yourself and your baby you can have so much fun. x
We started weaning at six months which started alongside eczema which got more and more severe. We’ve since discovered he has a diary and egg allergy which was hopefully the eczema trigger. We’ve gone back to basics with fruit, veg and some meat and fish. But he only wants yoghurt and cheese so we are lucky if he has a couple of bites of food a day. It’s a battle at the moment!
Hi Katherine. We have recently discovered that Tayo could have a lactose intolerance so similarly to you I have really gone back to basics. But he really loved yoghurt and would bang his high chair for more once it was finished! It seems he was way more interested in cheesey based foods and isn’t such a fan of a bit of chicken and broccoli any more. Good luck with it all. I;d love to hear more about how ho got diagnosed with the allergy or if it was more of a trial and error ‘try this and see if it works’ type thing as that’s all that we’ve been told at the minute and I’d like to know more about if there are actual tests that can be done?x
Hi Becky, we found out my little one had allergies when we started weaning – he comes out in a rash so it’s easier to spot I guess. My GP referred us to the paediatric allergy team at our local hospital where they did skin prick tests for a whole load of allergens. Not sure whether the process would be the same for Lactose intolerance but hopefully you’ll get some answers for Tayo soon!
Juliet thank you SO much for this! I might investigate if I don’t start to see an improvement over the next week or so xx
you’re very welcome! hope it works out for your little man, and if he does need to give up dairy in the future it is totally manageable – I was worried about my little one not getting enough calcium/calories but the paediatric dietician he saw assured us you can definitely get enough without dairy – there are decent alternative milks & products etc (try the alpro ‘growing up’ milk too – jeez I should be on commission from alpro at this rate!) xx
Hi
We ended up having blood tests which highlighted the allergies. His eczema was so bad that the doctors thought it must be driven by an allergic reaction. But dairy often doesn’t show up on blood tests and elimination is the only way to work it out. We think he might have further allergies so have managed to get referred to an allergy clinic. He loves yoghurt so much and would always want at least 2 pots so we now have to be really careful what we eat as if he sees yoghurt or cheese he goes crazy! I would push the doctor for an allergy clinic referral to give you peace of mind. I’ve managed to get James to eat 1.5 blueberries, a bite of banana, 2 tiny pieces of chicken and 3 peas so far today, winning!
Katherine I’m in the same boat as you – my son has eczema and dairy & egg allergies which is a bit of a pain, although he’s 16 months now so we’re used to it. Have you tried Alpro soy yogurts? my little one loves them – they come in loads of flavours, and high calcium which is always good when they can’t get it from dairy. The alpro custard is yum too. Spend a lot of my time in the free-from aisles these days!
I had forgotten how much I love the Alpo custard (I had to cut out dairy for 6 months and now eat minimal). That is going straight in my basket in this weeks shop x
haha it’s good isn’t it! I had to give up dairy too for a while, but was glad I could still knock up a decent crumble & custard 🙂 Now if only they could work on a good dairy-free icecream…
Have you seen that Alpro have a new ice cream range out? And also the coconut ice cream is delish x
This is going straight in my basket too on my next shop! x
Thanks I’ll look at the Alpro yoghurts. I did read that if it’s a delayed dairy allergy then soya can be an allergy too. We have allergy clinic in a few weeks so hoping we can get more answers then.
Perfect timing with this post, Becky and RMF! As a first time mum to a 6.5m old, the wider world of weaning is so confusing! Especially with in laws who mean well but keep giving conflicting advice to what the health visitor has said. Will be printing off the guide to weaning (and maybe showing them this article too!)
Oh Francesca… ALL the conflicting advice! Our guides are literally just that… lose guides to help give you a bit of direction really so I hope they help you. I hope you enjoy the process and get a bit messy along the way! Tayo is currently in a phase of whipping his bib off… Any bib and so he currently feeds topless. It is hilarious! x
Haha this sounds familiar. I ended up getting bibs that pull over the head rather than fasten round neck …I found them in morrisons and peacocks. Now at 16 months though she can pull them over her head aswell!
My daughter is throwing cereal all over the floor right now and eating the occasional bit. She’s clearly having so much fun 🙂
At just over 12 months she’s starting to show some preferences foodwise and learning to use a spoon. I think now more than ever we need to take your advice about not putting to much pressure on ourselves, as it is hard when some days she eats a lot and the next she’ll have just a few spoonfuls before deciding she’s not interested any more. We’re also still finding she’s not that interested in drinking/using her sippy cup, which is a pain.
Rebecca I feel like Tayo is going to be very similar to this. Leo ate everything, all the time. He never left a thing… In many ways he was such an easy baby but Tayo…? I feel he’s going to be the opposite. Some days he isn’t remotely interested and I find it really stressful but then I have to remember that surely if he is hungry, he will eat right? Love thats your daughter is starting to learn how to use her spoon 🙂 I remember one day when Leo came home from nursery and he could use a knife?! Wowzers.
This is such a brilliant piece, thank you! I have a 5 month-old and I was unsure whether to do baby-led or purees. I think doing both is a great idea! Going to print this out later and share with my NCT buddies xxx
You’re so welcome Charlotte! I really enjoy doing both – Tayo eats really well from a spoon so I feel like at least I know he’s actually eaten something substantial for his dinner if he spent most of his lunch chucking food on the floor! Haha x
Absolutely! Let them play but also, let mum know what they’ve eaten!! Bless him, what a cutie xx
Great article! I felt quite apprehensive about weaning, breastfeeding was just so easy and simple 😀
Luckily, our little boy took to food like a fish to water and absolutely loves to eat. We also started before 6 months, for the same reasons as you – he was so curious about our food that I thought I might as well try it and it’s been a full success. We went for a mix between babyled and purreed (I can’t handle the mess from just baby led, sorry) and so far, he really does eat anything. There are clear favourites though – porridge, peanut butter toast and Spag Bol are always a win! I’m really loving watching him try new foods, exploring taste and texture.
We got a very nice Ella cookbook with the Boots parenting club for free, which gave some great advice (I think that’s still on, too?) and some nice recipes, as does the Annabel Karmel one. I found both very helpful to start with, now at 9 months, he mostly eats what we’re having mushed up, or if it’s too spicy or contains salt, he’ll have a pouch.
Only had time for a quick scan so forgive me, I’ll read it properly later, but I did notice peanuts at 12 months (albeit with the earlier comment not to introduce before 6 months from an allergy perspective). That’s interesting as I thought the latest advice was much more proactive, giving peanuts much earlier from an allergy point of view (with obvious extreme caution for those most at risk of an allergy). I may be totally wrong, so please don’t take this as a given, I’m just curious as to why the table suggests from 12 months. Sorry Becky, this is not directed at you personally, I appreciate that while RMF is a wonderful source of information it does not have the answer to everything 🙂 We started giving peanuts at 6 months, along with almond and other nut butters, albeit in tiny amounts.
Quick Google led me to this for anyone else interested: https://www.theguardian.com/society/2017/jan/05/babies-peanut-allergies-health-guidelines
Thanks for sharing this x
Hi Annie, this really is a lose guide – I didn’t realise that that was the latest advice… great news that we can start introducing these things sooner! 🙂 Do you know if that applies to actual peanuts for kids under 5 (which was the last i knew about the whole nuts? Does that even make sense) – I’m assuming for the littles its referring to things like peanut butter etc? Thanks so much for your comment and no offence taken at all – that’s the joy of these pages, we’re all learning something new all the time 🙂 x
I’m pretty sure whole nuts are still recommended much later, as you note, from a choking perspective. The advice for littles refers to nut butters etc as far as I know. These things change all the time, it is impossible to keep up!!
Ah weaning – it took us so long to get the hang of breastfeeding it felt like a right pain then having to introduce food into the mix! I found some advice from my health visitor quite useful – when first starting, pick a time of day when they are usually pretty happy (e.g. lunchtime) and start with offering food at that time, then increasing number of ‘meal times’ as and when they start to eat a bit more. Before that I was at 6 months and felt clueless as to how to suddenly get to 3 meals a day so an approach gently easing us into it really helped me. We now have a 16 month old who knows what he likes (mainly beige foods – bread, yoghurt, cheese, sweet potato, banana) and likes to chuck everything else straight off his tray – hoping you might have an article about this stage later in the week as I know it’s been talked about on here before!xx
Amanda I once watched a programme that said that all babies/small children have a natural instinct to be cautious of anything green… Something to do with a natural instinct to avoid poisonous plants (from like way back when in the cave man days!) Isn’t that interesting! So thanks evolution for making it hard for us to get green stuff into our kids diets! 😉 We have some recipe type posts planned but if you don’t feel that particular area gets covered in enough detail do let us know and we can put another more specific post together for you in the future x
Ooh that is interesting! Maybe something like that explains the dislike of unusual textures in foods too! I look forward to seeing what else you’ve got planned this week 😊 xx
Yes please an article about nightmare food throwers & naughty eaters! Mine is 21 months and likes to throw stuff, pour his drink everywhere, flick food about, eat yoghurt with his fingers despite being given a spoon…. and with a two week old makes mealtimes über stressful!! Discipline has gone out of the window! Help!
Just got round to reading the whole article – great advice Becky!! We too took the mix and match method, starting around 5 months, although we took a break for a couple of weeks after our daughter decided she didn’t want it any more, and then a couple of weeks later she loved it again. Definitely agree on the don’t panic and every baby is different. I had friends whose babies wouldn’t touch proper food for months, and some who instantly gobbled up everything in sight 🙂
For anyone wanting a useful book on the subject, I used “Weaning Made Easy” by Dr Rana Conway, which I picked because it wasn’t remotely judgmental, and also suggested lots of methods including mixing purees and baby led weaning. It also had a very handy guide of suggested things to try, depending on whether you started weaning at 4 months, 5 months, 6 months or later, which was great. And some lovely recipe ideas too.
And ditto Amanda, my 18 month old now has an aversion to many things, especially meals she loved the week before, arrgh! Interesting about the reason why babies exercise caution around green things Becky too, who knew! Except peas, obviously peas are the exception to all rules 🙂
Great post and very timely as we’re currently discussing when to start weaning our 4 and a half month old. He is mesmerised whenever we are eating, and is very happy sitting in his high chair so I think he’s almost ready. I’m hoping to start with purees and introduce finger foods around 6 months, we’ll see how it goes.
The great thing about weaning is also revising how you eat as a couple and/or family. I now eat oats for breakfast, gone all whole foods, have now Lurpack unsalted butter, Kallo Stock cubes which are 0.1g salt as opposed to Oxo’s crazy amount and we make our own snacks. I think I have actually enjoyed it more than my daughter has (now 10mths). In addition I had a really rough time with breast feeding, so much so I was hospitalised and it didn’t really work out for me. The guilt I felt not being able to breast feed the whole time I was feeding her the bottle…now I am on two bottles a day (morning and night), I feel less guilt and actually quite liberated.
Such a great post and easy to read guide. Thank you – we are just about to start our weaning journey!
Do you have a suggested list of ‘must haves’ or useful items for mum’s? The munchkin cup is a great first suggestion!
I’m a Registered Nutritional Therapist and I run weaning workshops to help parents learn all they need to know about weaning. My business partner is a Registered Nutritionist so we’re both highly qualified in this area. Some of what you’ve advised here, particular in regards to what age to start certain foods is actually incorrect. It’s great for other parents to read about personal experience but it’s really confusing for people to be given incorrect advice and we see a lot of it in our workshops. Sorry if I sound picky but you’ve got a huge audience and it would be great if you worked in conjunction with professionals to make sure what you’re putting out there is correct 🙂
Nicola, I went to a weaning workshop run by Health Visitor professionals in nutrition and do you know what I came out learning? There is no right or wrong way of doing things. Professionals told me a number of things that ‘didn’t work’, so based on my experience as a mother any advice is good advice and you just pick and choose what you decide to take on yourself with your own children.
I’ve just started weaning with my little boy, and we’re enjoying it so much. He totally loves everything we’ve given him so far. We too are doing a mix of mush – or puree as it’s officially known – and baby-led, and like yours, he really enjoys both. He’s one week away from being 7 months, and today had mango mush for breakfast, toast (crusts cut off, unsalted butter) and hard boiled egg for lunch, and pasta (fusilli so he can hold them) with spinach and cheese sauce for dinner. It amazes me, watching him pick up toast soldiers and put them in his mouth himself, then bite (gum) a bit off and chew and swallow it. It’s so grown up, and yet he’s so little! He always has a tippy cup of water afterwards too, to make sure he doesn’t get constipated, and he can drink that himself. It only took a few sessions for him to learn how to do it. My advice would be simply go slow (so that YOU don’t freak out, apart from anything else – it does feel very alien giving your baby food for the first time), do what feels right (mush or don’t, however suits you and baby best) and just enjoy it. The speed they learn and progress is astonishing.
Lulu
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Thanks for this! I got the Cow & Gate booklet through but there was no time frame and I was having a small panic, especially with regards to when to introduce meat.
Brilliant infographic and checklist. Thank you! Can’t wait to wean my little one!
Such a handy guide! I’ll be printing and putting on the fridge. I never plan my baby’s meals I just rustle him up whatever I think he’ll fancy on the day, so this is perfect.