Teeth teeth teeth. The bane of my life. Well, the bane of Tayo’s life really but you know, mainly mine. For a fairly long time I thought the reason for him not settling at night might be down to some sort of allergy or intolerance but now I’m pretty much 99% certain it’s all been down to him teething.
Signs
Tayo generally displays the following signs of teething; ear pulling and rubbing, being irritable seemingly out of nowhere and ALL the dribbling. He’s also into biting… luckily not people but muslins, teddy’s or any soft toy he can find and also his rubber spoons. He’s also a massive fan of two teethers, this one from Nuby which has different parts for different parts of the gums and this toothbrush. Every morning when we brush his teeth he keeps a hold of it and bites on it for a good ten minutes. It really helps us get through that first nappy change of the day.
He also seems to get pretty swollen gums just before they break through. They look so sore. Something else I’ve noticed as well is that he doesn’t necessarily have loser bowl movements like I know a lot of babies do but they really increase in frequency which is loads of fun when he doesn’t want to lie down to be changed… Pull-Ups to the rescue! Other signs I know friends have mentioned are really rosy cheeks and also loss of appetite. Tayo has this week been nicknamed ‘The Hoover’ at nursery so he’s definitely not struggling with that.
Brushing
I’ve just mentioned brushing his teeth and it was something I wanted to lightly touch upon. At his one year review with our health visitor, she asked me if we were registered with a dentist yet (we were, phew!) and also if I had already started brushing his teeth. At this point he had four, and yes we had. She then proceeded to tell me that my city had the 3rd highest rate for babies needing to have their teeth pulled due to decay, check here for more such facts. Sorry what!? There’s a part of me that thinks she was making it up but jeez, if that’s true I am shocked that that is even a thing. And how?! Anyway, a friend of mine asked me when I started to brush his teeth and the answer was as soon as the first one broke through. I think it’s another one of those things that you need to fit into your daily routine and so the sooner you start doing it the easier it is to get into the habit.
It’s obviously not a particularly easy task. But one of the first things I attempted to teach Tayo was ‘show me your teeth’ (the perks of being a second time Mom… You discovered all the tricky tasks with your first born so you are better prepared for tasks such as these) find out here on tips to brush a toddlers teeth. I would say the phrase and then show him mine in a big smile whilst making a noise… I chose a short of blowing air through my teeth sound and low and behold after a couple of weeks, he did it back to me so now when we brush I say the phrase and there they are, ready and waiting. But I have to be quick because he doesn’t stay like it for long, I do what I can and then give him the brush to chew on which I hope finishes the job. You can also buy the soft finger toothbrushes if you find that easier.
When
What teeth do they get and when? Tayo’s been pretty typical so far. He started with the bottom two incisors followed by the top two. The bottom two arrived around seven months and the top ones around nine months. And just last week his top two lateral incisors have broken through and are making good headway. But as with everything to do with babies, it’s important to remember that they are all different. When Leo was a baby I remember him having a little friend who was 14 months before he got his first tooth and Tayo has a friend who will be one in a couple of weeks and his first tooth has only just started to erupt. It’s amazing the things they can still eat without their teeth. I also know a baby who got his first tooth at 12 weeks! As always if you’re concerned you can speak to your health visitor.
Remedies
I hear so many success stories about gels and granules but nothing seems to settle this little boy. Having said that though I do still try a few things in the hopes that one day they might. He categorically will not have gel on his gums any longer and I’m not brave enough to try and get it on past all those front teeth. We tried granules which he seemed to quite like but they made very little difference to his discomfort.
The best thing we’ve found is to use Ibuprofen (and at times paracetamol in between if it seems to not be helping too much) and the teething toy. He goes to bed with his Taggie which has small rubber teething tags as well as the material ones and also the Nuby toy I mentioned earlier. This is all in the hopes that when he wakes up in the night, if he’s in discomfort he will reach for one of the other to try and ease his pain. He also has a dummy and he often chews the side of that. For him, chewing seems to be the best relief. He doesn’t seem to enamoured with frozen or cold teething toys but he does seem to settle with a cold yoghurt or cucumber. I am going to try some frozen banana now that he’s taken a shine to it in it’s normal state.
One other thing I do when he is unsettled at night is rub his forehead. My Osteopath showed me how to use a bit of moisturiser and rub in an upwards motion from between his eyebrows going round and down past his temples and finishing by his jaw. He’s not always cool with me doing the whole thing but he seems to enjoy just having me stroke his forehead in an upward motion between his eyebrows.
Everything is just a phase
He definitely seems to go through phases and his restless sleeping definitely coincides with when I can see new teeth on the horizon. He seems to get quite red and swollen gums when they’re on route so it’s quite easy to see coupled with all the symptoms. When it’s bad he generally wakes from midnight, on the hour, every hour until 6 or 7 when we give in and get up in an attempt to distract him form his discomfort. So it’s pretty tough on everyone but the most important thing I try hard to remember during my 3am frustrations is that yes, I might be tired but I’m not in pain or discomfort like he is. And I do get frustrated. If you’re ‘guilty’ of shouting For F**cks Sake into your pillow before heading out of your warm bed to tend to your baby for the fourth time, you’re not alone. I am Queen of the FFS’s.
This period of parenting is hard and it can be extremely exhausting and it can feel quite isolating; like you’re the only one up and down all night but I’ve learned that there are so many of us struggling with teething babies. So I hope this post has been slightly useful and that the pin attached can serve as a reminder of some things you can do to help remedy your babes discomfort. And remember, everything is just a phase.
How are you finding the teething journey? What remedies have worked best for your baby? Any top tips that I need to know that I might not have tried yet? I’m intrigued by teething jewellery. Have you ever tried that and is it practical or is it worth it now that Tayo’s pretty much walking and I don’t have to carry him so much? As always… Tell me ALL!
{Signs & Symptoms}
We use Anbesol, which the pharmacist recommended and we had in the house anyway for mouth ulcers, and it’s fab. It’s a liquid anaesthetic and antiseptic, and works pretty instantly to numb sore gums, just as long as you can get your finger in their mouth!
Such a great post Becky! We’re back in teething world with E’s back molars at the moment. She’s kind of taking it in her stride now and insisting she “doesn’t have an ouch”, but her moody teenager level attitude and the biting of everything that’s in her hand tells me differently.
Oh and a little comment on the “FFS”… I muttered it under my breath the other day when she was being a dick, next minute she was prancing round the living room going “For Fussake! For Fussake!” Great. Just starting her off with all the bad swears 🙈x
LOL Karen!! My swears seem to be getting louder with the more sleep deprived I get. Thank goodness Tayo is too little to speak yet!x
HAH Karen, this reminds me of my piano teacher who said “F***!” in front of her 3 yr old while she was driving – but told her daughter it was only a word that drivers could use. Fast forward a few weeks and her daughter was in one of the toy cars at the supermarket…yelling “F***! F***! F*****!” extremely loudly as horrified Sainsbury’s shoppers looked on.
Duck!! Nice duck, quack quack, that’s what I said 🙄 😂
Another vote for Anbesol here – it was the only thing that worked for us, aside from Calpol/ibuprofen which I tried to avoid unless it was really bad pain. Also frozen damp face cloths for a bit of a chew.
As a dental hygiene fanatic I can’t believe the stats for child tooth decay either Becky. I think it’s so important to teach them good habits from the beginning. We’ve also brushed from the appearance of her first tooth and she’s been to the dentist with me 3 times so far (she’s 2 and a half). I also think it’s good to let your kids see you brushing your teeth, so they’re aware it’s something everyone has to do. We went through a refusal stage for a while around the age of two – I got her to make animal noises and stuck the brush in when she opened her mouth! I also find listing all the foods she’s eaten that day, in the context of ‘brushing them away’, means I’m allowed to scrub for longer. Though she did tell me her toothpaste was ‘too spicy’ the other day! 😂
Tracy Leo ALWAYS tells me his toothpaste is too spicy! He only really likes the Aquafresh one. I must try some of this Anbesol… If I can get my finger in his mouth x
You have to ask for it behind the counter at the pharmacy. Say it’s for child teething as there is an adult one. I swear by it and have recommended to everyone. We were recommended it as my daughters are dairy intolerant and most teething things contain dairy. I don’t force but I kind of force my finger in but it does work. Also can’t beat calpol and ibuprofen. We are cutting our 7th tooth at 10mnths and up hrly it’s a killer plus she keeps waking herself up with crappy nappies 😩 x
I love this product too but my packaging says it’s for adults and babies – you just use a different amount.
Amber anklet / necklace really worked for us! Few people recommended and after seeing over 600 5 star reviews thought why not and we never take it off now! Just 4 teeth to go!
Holly yes I have seen a few babies at Tayos baby group with them. I think I might get one to try and they’re not particularly expensive either are they so if it doesn’t work I won’t fee like I’ve lost out too much x
What is this amber necklace thing? I’ve also seen a few babies with them on but I’ve been too embarrassed to ask their mamas what its all about ….
I don’t want to seem like I’m deliberately being contrary, but prior to reading this article, I’d read about amber teething necklaces – but in terms of them being dangerous. Just typing ‘amber teething’ into Google yields some interesting articles, including these:
https://www.healthychildren.org/English/ages-stages/baby/teething-tooth-care/Pages/Amber-Teething-Necklaces.aspx
https://scienceornot.net/2012/10/30/amber-necklaces-and-teething-babies/
There is advice on how to minimise the twin dangers (strangulation and choking, the latter occurring if the beads come loose), but given the lack of scientific evidence behind their use, and the severity of the consequences if things do go wrong, isn’t it better to avoid them?
Hi, sorry just coming back to this now ☺️
Where was your anklet from?
All of the sympathy, Becky – we are going through the upper set of first molars at the mo (K is 17 months) and it’s a nightmaaare. K is quite prone to eczema and it’s one of the first signs I get that he’s teething – his eczema definitely gets worse! And, actually, it’s this that seems to make his nights so restless as the eczema makes him super itchy + I’m sure the teeth are sore too. I can see both of the top ones now but the gums around are still quite sore. Poor things, it must be awful!
I don’t have any remedies that work (K just likes breastfeeding a bit more) and I’m super tired at the mo but, like every phase, this one will pass…I’m just hoping it’ll be soon!
Such a good post! Our little man is currently working on all four lateral incisors, cue lots of biting and a fair amount of drool. The signs in his case are also more frequent – and extremely smelly!!!! – poos and swollen gums. Luckily, he’s still sleeping ok but I found ibuprofen better than calpol if he wakes up really upset.
We’ve been brushing his teeth twice a day since he got the first one, although at the moment, he hates it and gets really upset – probably because his gums are so sore. It was the same the last teeth came through so admittedly, at the moment, it’s more letting him chew the brush than actually brushing them. From experience, as soon as the teeth are out, he’ll be fine with it again so I’m not too worried about it at the moment.
Yeah Maike I totally agree, Tayo is all for the grabbing and chewing of the brush so I figure it’s better he does that than we don’t even try… It’s a sort of brushing isn’t it 🙂 x
Becky are you bloody psychic???? Paddy has suddenly cut his first two teeth and is working on the upper incisors and has totally caught me out- Silv didn’t bother until 11 months!!! She wasn’t interested in teething toys or anything so it’s so different having a littler baby going through it.
Loads of really helpful advice so thank you so much. Was Leo as teethy? And how is brushing his teeth now? I seem to remember he hated it for a bit… tell me he’s grown out of it now as Silvia hates it!
Lucy Leo is so good at brushing his teeth now. Again I think that hating it thing is just another phase they go through? Leo didn’t sleep until he was about 16 months or so and I now look back and think it must’ve all been down to teething too? Maybe try the amber anklet? I’m going to order one x
Have my comments about amber teething necklaces deliberately been removed? I only made them in the hope of raising awareness about the potential issues with them…
Sorry – my phone must be playing up as I can now see the original message 3 times! So sorry! X